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Module 1: The 10 Principles of Effective Couples Therapy: What Science Tells Us and Beyond with Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D. and John Gottman, Ph.D.

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  1. Relate Gottmans’ 40 years of research on the dynamics of couples relationships to their principles of effective couples therapeutic assessment and clinical interventions
  2. Breakdown Gottmans’ Sound Relationship House Theory as it relates to achieving desired treatment outcomes
  3. Articulate the principles of effective couples therapy that help to inform the clinician’s choice of treatment interventions
  4. Summarize the components of a comprehensive couples assessment as it relates to clinical case conceptualization
  5. Apply clinical interventions that increase couples’ ability to manage conflict, create intimacy, foster fondness and admiration, and create a positive perspective of their relationship
  6. Teach clients the 5 steps of relationship repair for processing past fights, regrettable incidents or past emotional injuries.


Copyright : 28/03/2015

Module 2: 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

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  1. Incorporate researched-based strategies into clinical practice to help couples improve their relationships
  2. Analyze the strength of couple intimacy and friendship in order to understand how relationship patterns influence love, trust, and conflict management
  3. Utilize resources and tools to help clients enhance friendship and intimacy in their relationship
  4. Examine the role of therapist in improving couple interactions and therapy outcomes, including understanding the collaborative nature of therapy, incorporating research findings, and use of interventions
  5. Provide detailed demonstrations and case studies identifying each of the 10 principles and how to effectively utilize the techniques and interventions with couples
  6. Summarize factors that contribute to affairs in marriage, and analyze the misconceptions about marital infidelity
  7. Identify the Gottman 3 step process in treating affairs to improve clinical outcomes
  8. Describe the implications of the Gottman method of couple’s therapy for addiction, personality disorders, and domestic violence
  9. Examine how to prevent adverse behavior relapse during and after therapy
  10. Teach self-soothing strategies to help manage flooding in couples
  11. Modify treatment strategies for couples who have experienced domestic violence and infidelity
  12. Explore past hurtful couple experiences to reduce their negative impact and help clients move forward together toward improved treatment outcomes.
  13. Articulate clinical strategies that aid in reducing conflict in couples
  14. Facilitate healthy sharing of feeling, active listening, and increased empathy between conflicted partners in session



Introduction to Speakers and their Experience


Overview of Gottmans’ 10 Principles


Principle 1: Use Researched Based Methods for Doing Couple Therapy

The Importance of Research in Couple Therapy

Common Relationship Myths

Limits to Research on Compatibility

Factors that Predict Relationships

What Couples Fight About Most

Role of Conflict in Divorce Prediction

Impact of Loss of Admiration

Domestic Violence in Relationships

New Research on Treating Affairs


Principle 2: Assess First, Then Decide on Treatment

The Assessment Process

Relationship Checkup Online Assessment

Providing Therapist Feedback on Couple Strengths & Challenges

The Value of Assessment Prior to Treatment

Impact of an Affair on the Assessment

Modifying assessment to short term treatment constraints

Relationship Assessment Questionnaire

* Video Case Study (Mike & Marilyn):


Principle 3: Understand each partner’s world

Determining which partner to see first

No secrets policies

Identifying when Couple therapy is premature

Asking about Domestic Violence

* Video Case Study:


Principle 4: Map your Treatment Route

Preparing to Give Feedback to Couples

When Partners view their relationship differently

When One Partner is engaged and the other is checked out

* Video Case Study: Assessment

Therapist as Holder of Hope

Sitting with the Couple’s Truth

Giving Feedback to Couples

Sound Relationship House

Duration of Therapy Process

* Video Case Study


Principle 5: Soothe Yourself and then Intervene

Two Aspects of Soothing

Helping Flooded Couples

Preventing Flooded Therapists


Principle 6: Process Regrettable Incidents

Managing Conflict: The Aftermath of a fight or regrettable incident

The Benefit of Processing an Incident to Let Go of the Past

Confronting the Barrier of Rightness

Addressing Unequal Responsibility

Recent and Distant Past Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution Modifications

* Video Case Study: Attunement


Principle 7: Replace the Four Horsemen with Gentle Conflict Management Skills

How to Replace the 4 Horsemen with Gentle Conflict Management

Power of Emotions

Video Case Study

Criticism & Defensiveness

Gottman Rapport Intervention

Dreams Within Conflict Intervention

Compromise Intervention


Principle 8: Strengthen Friendship & Intimacy


Friendship Interventions / What Kind of Friends Are the Couple

3 Components of Friendship

Love Maps

Open Ended Questions


Principle 9: Dive Deep to Create Shared Meaning


Establishing a Stronger Bond

Case Study: Rituals of Connection

Difference Between Creating Shared Meaning & Deepening Friendship


Principle 10: Suspend Moral Judgment When Treating Affairs

Misconceptions About Affairs

The Stance/Internal World of Therapist

Three Step Process for Treating Affairs


Hold the Hope

Helping the Therapist to Hold the Hope for their Couple Clients


Tying It Together

Outline of a Typical Session

Dyadic vs. Triadic Treatment

How to Minimize Relapse

Gottman Approach Appropriateness for Specific Problems

Cross Cultural Applicability

Myths About the Gottman Approach

Creating Understanding and Expression of Emotions is a Central Feature

Copyright : 07/03/2018