Neuroscience in the Consulting Room: Enhancing the Impact of Couples Therapy
Program Information
Outline
Overview of couple’s therapy
Recognizing EFT in therapy
Using a clear, systematic approaches to get the best outcomes - Attachment Theory
Experiencing couple’s therapy: discover how relationships affect the brain with Daniel Siegel
Exposure to a recorded couple’s therapy session
Discussion of interventions and change processes with Dan Siegel
Intervention exercises to be completed by participants
Concluding remarks with Sue Johnson and Daniel Siegel
Explaining client vulnerabilities and what it means for treatment
Techniques to help couples change and grow through each other for a better sense of self
Objectives
Assess how to “read” clients’ facial and body language as outward signs of their brain function and emotional processing.
Determine how to use this knowledge to select and time interventions more effectively.
Analyze how to make your interventions more efficient by tapping into the processes of relational regulation.
Determine when clients can’t self-soothe or access higher brain functions and intervene accordingly.
Copyright :24/03/2017
Couples on the Brink: When Is Enough Enough?
Program Information
Outline
Course of Treatment
Step One
Join with the Most Distant Partner
Partners’ Positions Translate into Their Unique Dance
Dance as the System Needing Treatment
Join Through the Therapist’s “Truth”
Confront the stable partner
Preconditions for Intimacy
Form alliances with each partner
Step Two
Negotiate a 3-4 Month Contract
Base this on 180 degree Turnaround in Stable Partner
Step Three
Produce Palpable Change in the Stable Partner
Three Phases of Treatment
Waking Up
Inner Child Work
Learned Connection
Using Therapeutic Intimacy
Creating Alliance
Appropriate Self Disclosure
Working with Grandiosity
Intimacy as a Spiritual Practice
First and Second Consciousness
Adaptive Child vs Functional Adult
How Couples Mutually Trigger Their Positions
Relational Recovery
How to Bring the Functional Adult into Relationship
Bottom Up and Top Down Healing
Five Losing Strategies of The Adaptive Child
Process of Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair
Being Right, Controlling the Partner, Unbridled Self-Expression
Retaliation, and Withdrawal
The Relational Grid
Self-esteem
Grandiosity and Toxic Shame
Full-Respect Living
Boundaries
Letter to the Adaptive Child
How to Go After What You Want
Improving Communication
The Feedback Wheel
Acknowledgement
Experience
Imaginings
Feelings
Desires
Listening and Responding
Teach the Couple to Hold Reality Lightly
Develop Curiosity
Respond with Generosity
Cherish What You Have
Objectives
Focus on how to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
Focus on what to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
Focus on what to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
Focus on how to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity
Copyright :25/03/2017
Creating Secure Connection in Couples Therapy: An Emotionally Focused Approach
Program Information
Outline
Overview of EFT
EFT has 3 Stages and 9 Steps
Goal: To help Couples Become Aware of Negative Interactional Patterns
Three Elements Include: Attachment, Systemic View, Focus on Emotions
5 Basic Moves of EFT
Reflect and Distill Present Process
Unfold Deeper or New Emotions
Turn New Experience into new Steps/signals to partner
Explore How Each Experiences the New Steps
Integrate and Validate
Core Assumptions of EFT
EFT Review of Pertinent Research
Demonstrates 90% Increase in Satisfaction
EFT Studied with fMRI
EFT Focuses on Attachment and Bonding
Interactional Patterns Reflect Attachment Styles
Differentiating Primary and Secondary Emotions
Insecurity Leads to Predictable Reactions
Three Forms of Attachment Insecurity
Anxious
Avoidant
Chaotic
Treatment
Involves Limbic Resonance, Regulation, and Revision
Discover how to differentiate each partner’s emotions in order to contain reactive emotion and evoke vulnerabilities
Discover how to recognize and assess each partner’s role in destructive patterns of interaction
Discover how to restructure couples’ negative patterns and stay in process when they become emotionally activated
Discover how to use voice, reflection, and validation to help partners share their deepest vulnerabilities
Copyright :24/03/2017
Addiction Treatment and Couples Therapy: Using Emotionally Focused Therapy to Strengthen Sobriety
Program Information
Outline
The Medical Model and Addiction
Key Figures in Modern Treatment
Emotion Focused Therapy
Emotion Focused Therapy for PTSD
Definition of Trauma
The Power of Treating Trauma Within the Context of the Couple Relationship
Neuroplasticity and Change
Importance of Heightened Emotion in Change
How Emotion is More Powerful than Cognition
Adverse Childhood Experiences
Adverse Childhood Experiences and Addiction
Attachment and Trauma is Key to Working with Addiction
Importance of Context in a Person’s Life
Cycle of Trauma Attachment and Addiction
How the Couple System Hijacks Attachment Fluidity
The Relationship between Attachment and Emotion in Systemic Change
How Partner’s Stress Strategies Become the Other Partner’s Negative Trigger
The Process of EFT
Five Basic Moves of EFT
Addressing the Addiction through Attachment Style
Experientially Engage Client with the Underlying Emotion that Addiction Regulates
Objectives
Discover how to use micro-tracking to identify and make explicit the rigid negative attachment-based patterns that perpetuate relational distress in addictive relationships
Discover how to systematically engage emotion to create bonding moments that support the addict in reaching out to their partner rather than their substance/behavior of choice
Discover how to apply powerful attachment-based interventions as an effective alternative to the familiar modes of confronting denial that often fail and trigger relapse
Copyright :25/03/2017
BONUS: Attachment and the Dance of Sex: Integrating Couples and Sex Therapy
Program Information
Objectives
Show how attachment science offers a new understanding of sexuality
Explain how the emotional sanctuary of committed relationships can help partners discover their distinctive sexual signature
Explore optimal lovemaking
Copyright :19/03/2016
BONUS: The Rules of the New Monogamy: The Changing Face of Committed Relationships
Program Information
Outline
Creating the New Monogamy Agreement
The Explict and Implicit Agreement
Renegotiating Rules of Monogamy Through Developmental Stages
The Momogamy Continuum
Thoughts
Fantasy
Desires
Arousal
Flirtation
Emotions
Action
Connection
Sex
Love
Detachment
The New Normal
Eroticism and Companionship
What Couples Want May Be Changing
Components of an Affair
The Outside Emotional Relationship
The Dishonesty
The Sexual Relationship
Steps in Recovery
Creating Understanding
Renegotiate Agreements
Initiate Erotic Recovery
Empathy in Recovery
Two Elements in Couple Relationships
Business of Relationship
Sexual Aspects
Create A New Vision of The Relationship
Through Exploration and Discussion with Couples
Outline for Both the New Vision of the Future
Creating Agreement over Accepted Behaviors
Objectives
Determine how to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
Demonstrate how to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
Analyze why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working