Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

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Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW
6 Hours 20 Minutes
Feb 22, 2021
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Narcissists are notoriously difficult clients. While often intelligent, charming, and self-confident, they also tend to be highly self-absorbed, arrogant, demanding, condescending, incapable of empathy, and possessed with a sense of entitlement. As therapists, the complexities of the narcissist can arouse our curiosity but treating them can arouse our sense of inadequacy.

While their exploitative and arrogant demeanour can leave you weary, irritated, intimidated and even defeated—all you really want is to feel competent, confident, and effective with making a difference in their lives; and even more so, in the lives of the narcissist’s family.

Watch best-selling author and narcissist expert, Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW, as she guides you through highly effective techniques that have transformed her clinical practice!

That’s right, reduce feelings of frustration with the lack of treatment progress. Reduce feelings of intimidation and defeat. Reduce feelings of dread in the pit of your stomach when their name is on your schedule!

Wendy’s innovative techniques will help you navigate and breakthrough narcissistic self-defeating patterns and achieve enduring change! Learn how to skillfully:

  • Set healthy limits, bypass obstacles, hold the client accountable
  • Confront avoidance, approval-seeking, entitlement, and aggression
  • Connect with the vulnerable part of the narcissist
  • Conquer the most challenging moments in sessions

Purchase today, to learn how to transform your treatment approach to these challenging clients!



This online program is worth 6.5 hours CPD.



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The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey

Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW, with over 25 years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating narcissist clients, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems; training professionals; and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. Wendy is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). She served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST; and also served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010.

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” (New Harbinger, 2nd edition) translated in 12 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.

Speaker Disclosures:

Financial: Wendy Behary is the co-founder, Clinical Director, and Director of Training for The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institute of NJ-NYC-DC. She is a published author and receives royalties. Ms. Behary receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Wendy Behary chairs the Schema Therapy Development Programs Committee for the International Society for Schema Therapy . She is a member of the NJ Association of Cognitive-Behavior Therapists and the International Association of Cognitive-Behavior Therapists. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy.


  1. Demonstrate specific clinical strategies to apply with narcissistic clients.
  2. Integrate concepts from interpersonal neurobiology as powerful tools for accelerating treatment effectiveness.
  3. Categorize personal schemas and modes accurately to overcome major obstacles to treatment.
  4. Utilize self-work to bypass intense personal triggers, activated by the narcissist.
  5. Create and adapt custom-fitting scripts to fortify leverage, to utilize “empathic confrontation” and to set limits…under a variety of conditions relevant to narcissism.
  6. Utilize the “Therapy Relationship” as an effective strategy for changing maladaptive reactions; and as powerful agent for change – generalizing newly adapted behaviours from the treatment room to the narcissist’s world.


Narcissism Along a Spectrum: Origins and Subtypes

  • Conceptualization of narcissism and early unmet needs
  • Narcissism, DSM® and Schema Theory
  • Entitled types
  • Full-blown character pathology
  • Sociopathic profiles
  • Limitations of related research and risks

The Narcissist in Treatment

  • Unmet needs and coping styles
  • Embedded states of mind
  • Modes and schema of the narcissistic client

Treating the Narcissist: From Assessment to Enduring Change

  • Specific assessment tools to guide treatment
  • Establish agreements regarding mutual respect
  • Imagery, for linking problematic behaviour with early maladaptive experiences
  • Identifying and bypassing the detached modes in order to access the lonely child
  • The power of candid “realness” to build trust
  • Address intellectualism, avoidance, and approval-seeking barriers
  • Confront overcompensating grandiosity
  • Effectively tackle aggressiveness – taking the “high road”
  • How to remain sturdy, credible, and empathic to masked vulnerability

Overcoming the Challenges When Treating a Narcissistic Client

  • How to respond when the narcissist provokes the therapist
  • Avoiding sabotaging impulses: How to reconcile our own schemas and modes when activated
  • Gaining leverage—Identifying meaningful consequences to maintain consistent treatment
  • Working with the narcissist’s spouse or significant other

How to Implement Interventions: Demonstrations and Role Plays

  • Video presentation/case discussion
  • Imagery
  • Cognitive and emotion-focused chair work: Mode dialogues
  • Empathic confrontation
  • The power of the therapeutic relationship
  • Limit setting

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Psychotherapists
  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers
  • Case Managers
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Nurses
  • Mental Health Professionals
  • Occupational Therapists



Overall:      4.9

Total Reviews: 12


Julianna P

"Interesting presentation of content and very helpful presentation on intervention to utilize with an otherwise difficult population."

Kathleen W

"Really enjoyed her seminar!!!"

Kandi T

"great course, learned valuable information."

erika w

"Overall I felt she was a very good presenter. I enjoyed the subject and learned a lot."

Donna G


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