Hidden beneath masks of love, concern, dedication, and friendship, emotional manipulators use gaslighting, guilt, button-pushing, anger, and covert ploys to exploit their victim’s weaknesses and keep them doing whatever they want.
In therapy, manipulative clients leave you feeling ineffective and helpless as they suck you into the ups and downs of the dramas they’ve created. And you may already be working with clients suffering the devastating fallout of having an emotional manipulator in their lives. Their feelings of anxiety, depression, guilt, self-blame, and inadequacy may stem from emotional manipulation that’s difficult to detect.
Without proper training, you’ll fail to successfully work with emotionally manipulative clients or help clients facing emotional manipulation so they can effectively counter it and form healthy boundaries.
Watch Dr. Alan Godwin in this recording as he shares key insights to understand the motives behind manipulation commonly associated with disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as manipulation by those who either do not have a personality disorder or have not yet been diagnosed as such. Effective strategies will empower you and your clients to recognize and counter manipulation in any setting.
Dr. Godwin’s expert guidance will leave you better able to work with emotional manipulators, those affected by manipulation in your practice, and allow you to establish healthy relational boundaries.
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Alan Godwin, PsyD, is a licensed psychologist in private practice with nearly 30 years of experience. Certified in Alternative Dispute Resolution, he has dedicated himself to helping individuals, couples, churches, and businesses develop better ways of handling conflict. In addition to his private practice, Dr. Godwin serves on the adjunct faculty of the Graduate Counseling Department of Trevecca University in Nashville, TN, where he teaches a class for doctoral students entitled "Psychodynamic Psychotherapies." He has also taught undergraduates and has guest lectured in the Marriage and Family department.
Additionally, he has penned a regular quarterly feature entitled "Ask Dr. Alan" for Deacon magazine, writes a weekly email called “The Drama Review: In Relationships and Culture,” and has been a guest on numerous radio and television programs across the U.S. and Canada. Dr. Godwin's book, How to Solve Your People Problems: Dealing with Your Difficult Relationships, explains how and why conflict goes badly and how to make it go well with two types of people: reasonable and unreasonable.
Financial: Alan Godwin maintains a private practice. He receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.
Non-financial: Alan Godwin has no relevant non-financial relationship to disclose.
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Examine manipulative behaviours, the manipulation process, and its clinical implications.
Analyze the relationship between reasoning deficiencies and emotionally manipulative behaviour to improve clinical outcomes.
Describe behavioural patterns characteristic of clients who tend to be most susceptible to emotional manipulation.
Establish strategies clients can use to effectively counter manipulation in a variety of contexts to improve clients’ level of functioning.
Differentiate common limitations of manipulative relationships to inform the clinician’s choice of treatment interventions.
Identify the covert manipulative tools of emotional manipulators and demonstrate practical strategies to maximize therapeutic success.
The Manipulator’s Mind – Why Traditional Treatment Doesn’t Work
What is emotional manipulation?
Key personality differences and deficiencies at the heart of emotional manipulation
Framework to identify manipulative tactics
Elements of manipulation associated with disordered and non-disordered individuals
Radically different approach needed for therapeutic success
Manipulative Relationship Dynamics
Identify healthy vs. manipulative relationships
Explore characteristics of attraction, dependency, and role participation
Codependency and addiction
Who stays, who leaves, and why?
How an emotional manipulator operates
Tactics used to evade responsibility and manipulate others
Cognitive distortions and common thinking errors
Short- and long-term psychological damage
When attempts to manipulate don’t succeed
Qualities and Commonly Exploited Vulnerabilities of Their Victims
Trusting and wanting to please
Empathic and feeling overly responsible
Trying to reason with an unreasonable person
Perceive bad qualities of manipulators as strengths
Common ways emotional manipulators test for these vulnerabilities
Techniques to Counter Manipulation & Empower Victims to Become Survivors
Recognize the manipulation process
Re-structure cognitive distortions
Create healthy boundaries and set limits
Respond instead of react
Make direct requests, expect direct responses
Judge actions, not intentions
Explore their own vulnerabilities and identify risk factors
Acknowledge relational limitations
Resources for ongoing support
Maximize Therapeutic Gains with a Manipulative Client
Accurately assess your client’s personality characteristics
Re-define your therapeutic approach
5 signs your client is manipulating you
Techniques to manage thinking errors and manipulative tactics
Strategies for common therapy-interfering behaviours