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From Trauma to Connection: How Intimacy Heals

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Terry Real, LICSW
2 Hours 01 Minutes
Mar 17, 2023
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Childhood trauma leaves survivors with a fundamental mistrust in the safety of relationships. As adults, they develop defenses against vulnerability, commitment, and emotion—either shutting down or getting stuck in mutually escalating conflicts with their partner. But using the Relational Life Therapy approach, therapists can actively teach Relational Mindfulness, helping clients cultivate the capacity to shift out of our reflexive automatic responses, formed in childhood, to mature, skilled behaviors. The cure for trauma is intimacy, and therapists can use current relationships as the crucible for transformation. After all, we can do deep trauma work in the presence of the partner. In this session, you’ll discover how to:

  • Help partners identify the role of trauma in their troubled relationships
  • Challenge them to move beyond their stories and automatic responses
  • Use nonverbal communication to reduce conflict and connect safely
  • Evoke a couple’s inherent capacity for authentic emotional connection and expression


Planning Committee Disclosure - No relevant relationships

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.


This online program is worth 2.25 hours CPD.



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Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from “Good Morning America,” “The Today Show” and “20/20,” to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times book review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.​

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.


  1. Theorize on the role of childhood trauma in current relationship distress.
  2. Demonstrate three phases of couples therapy based on the relational life therapy approach.
  3. Apply 2 interventions for helping clients express themselves without aggression and defensiveness in relationships.


  • The problem with individualism and patriarchy in therapy
  • Three core parts of the psyche and their impact on relationships
  • Three phases of Relational Life Therapy
  • Doing trauma work in the context of relationship and couples therapy
  • Helping couples “join through the truth”
  • The practice of relational mindfulness

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Physicians
  • Physician Assistants
  • Nurses
  • Nurse Practitioners 
  • Other Mental Health Professionals



Overall:      4.8

Total Reviews: 11

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