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Modern Love: Rethinking Intimacy and Sexuality in Couples Therapy with Esther Perel, LMFT

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Esther Perel, MA, LMFT
6 Hours
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Nov 14, 2016
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Traditional approaches to couples therapy are built on the assumptions that if you help a couple clear up the emotional issues in their relationship, sex will automatically get better.

But it doesn’t work that way.

While couples in therapy do learn to strengthen their emotional bond, communicate more clearly, and resolve conflicts with less uproar, the sexual dimension of their relationship often remains unchanged. That’s because sexual issues are seldom a direct consequence of anything else—not emotional disconnect, poor communication, or stress in the relationship.

Hailed by The New York Times as The Sexual Healer, international couples therapy expert Esther Perel will address how modern love has transformed. She will teach you how sexuality and eroticism explicitly and directly are the best ways to help couples break out of stale sexual routines, reignite desire, and reclaim a vibrant erotic life.

Esther's tools and strategies are guaranteed to increase your confidence and make conversations about sex less awkward and uncomfortable. Don't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity to get the new secrets of modern love so you can help your clients build long term intimate partnerships that combine commitment and safety with sexual vitality and erotic exploration.

Don’t miss this rare opportunity!



This online program is worth 6.0 hours CPD.



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Couple and Family Therapist

Esther Perel has devoted her entire professional life to helping people build thriving relationships. She believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. Since arriving as a graduate student in the United States, Perel has examined the concept from myriad angles: the nature of cultural and religious identity, the negotiation between tradition and modernity, the ebb and flow between individualism and collectivism. She observed interracial and interreligious couples; the cultural forces that affect gender roles; practices of childrearing; and ultimately, the tensions, obstacles, and anxieties that arise when our quest for love and security conflicts with our pursuit of adventure and freedom.

Today, Perel is best known as the host of the wildly popular podcast Where Should We Begin? This fascinating, inside look at Perel’s sessions with real-life couples has unlocked a deep-seated cultural interest in hashing these issues out openly in order to live better lives. However, it has also unlocked within Perel the understanding that her years of study and practice go beyond the romantic, and that the lessons she has learned can be applied to relationships of all kinds, in all environments. The same principles used to create an open, balanced relationship with one’s significant other can be applied to our co-workers, our bosses, and our world at large.

New York Times best-selling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. As a psychotherapist, Perel has helmed a therapy practice in New York City for more than 35 years. In parallel, she serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Fluent in nine languages, Perel’s celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her best-selling books have been translated into 31 languages. Perel is an executive producer and host of the award-winning podcast Where Should We Begin? Her new podcast How’s Work? focuses on workplace dynamics and can be enjoyed on Spotify or other podcast providers.



Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Esther Perel maintains a private practice. She has employment relationships with Columbia University, Ackerman Institute for the Family, Norwegian Institute for the Expressive Arts Therapies, The Minuchin center for the Family, and 92nd Street Y. She receives royalties as a published author. Esther Perel receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Esther Perel is a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, The Society for Sex Therapy and Research, and the American Association for Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists.

Target Audience

Addiction Counselors, Chaplains/Clergy, Counselors, Marriage & Family Therapists, Psychologists, Social Workers, and other Mental Health Professionals


  1. Describe the tension between two fundamental human needs of security and adventure.
  2. Define how cross cultural issues present in couples therapy and how to adapt your practice.
  3. Summarize how you must invert the traditional therapeutic priorities.
  4. Demonstrate how allowing the sexual relationship serves as a lens into the couple’s interpersonal dynamics.
  5. List techniques that allow couples to draw pleasure from the hidden and the mysterious while respecting their needs for safety and stability.
  6. Explain methods that facilitate clients voicing their erotic longings.
  7. Utilize experiential exercises to help couples confront their emotional blocks and their sexual inhibitions thereby open up communication of their erotic strivings to each other.


Fundamental Human Needs & Our Clients

  • Security and adventure
  • Invert your traditional therapeutic priorities
  • The sexual relationship as a lens into the couple’s interpersonal dynamics
  • The body & its profound capacity for communicating in its own language

The Pitfalls of Modern Intimacy

  • Redefine the modern marriage
  • Manage love, sex and commitment
  • More intimacy, less sex
  • The erotic and the domestic
  • Recognize couples’ vicious cycles and the underlying trauma that fuels them
  • Talk is not the only avenue to closeness

New Approaches to Couples Therapy in Practice

  • Adapt this knowledge to your clinical couples practice
  • Cross cultural perspective
  • Techniques to help couples confront their emotional blocks
  • Get couples overcome their sexual inhibitions
  • Move beyond familiar comfort zones
  • Develop expansive, fully charged sexuality
  • Fantasy as a healthy and enriching imaginative tool
  • Experiential exercises for couples

Addressing the Awkward in the Therapy Room

  • When puritanism and hedonism collide
  • Democracy verses “hot sex”: desire and egalitarianism
  • Erotic Blueprints: How our attachment style influences our eroticism
  • Parenthood: Unblock sexual blocks after kids
  • Porn, kink and other atypical sexual behaviors
  • Work with secrets, confidentiality, transparency and truth telling
  • Rethink fidelity



Overall:      5

Total Reviews: 18


Charlotte P

"Excellent Presentation"

Lorna S

"This was an excellent training, and I will be looking for more of her material!"

Stephanie H

"This was probably one of the best trainings - online or in person, I have ever done. Thank you!"

Colleen T

"One of the best trainings!"

Melodie S


Monica K

"Very useful. Excellent."

Christine U

"Esther is the best speaker I have ever encountered and her perspective of modern love is spot on! This is the best seminar I have ever attended! I will follow her beyond this webinar! Thank you Esther for sharing your knowledge, skill and experience!"

jennifer h

"Thank you Ester! Please do more seminars through PESI!!!"

Jennifer W

"This was an excellent seminar - I enjoyed and it and was very impressed with the speaker. "

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