Rebuilding Trust in ADHD-Impacted Relationships

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Planning Committee Disclosure - No relevant relationships

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.

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Speaker

Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA Related seminars and products

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Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA, is a psychologist, international presenter, author, and ADHD expert. He is the author of four books on adult ADHD – one for clinicians and three for the general public. He has also written several book chapters and is a frequent author for ADHD-related publications, including ADDitude Magazine and Attention Magazine.

He is a popular and dynamic presenter who routinely earns excellent reviews for his ability to make complex concepts understandable and useful. He has given more than 650 presentations and podcast interviews for professionals and members of the public, across America and in Sweden, Turkey, Greece, Mexico, England, Spain, Denmark, Canada, and Iceland.

He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, and XM Radio and has been quoted in The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, USnews.com, The Philadelphia Inquirer, Men’s Health, and many other media outlets. He is a former board member and current conference committee chair for CHADD and is the 2023 recipient of their Hall of Fame award for his significant contributions to the field.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Ari Tuckman maintains a private practice. He receives royalties as a published author. Ari Tuckman receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Ari Tuckman is the National Conference Committee co-chair for CHAAD.

Melissa Orlov Related seminars and products

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Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com, and author of two award-winning books on the impact of ADHD in relationships - The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010) and The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014). She is considered one of the foremost authorities on the topic of how ADHD impacts adult relationships. A marriage consultant, Melissa helps ADHD-affected couples from around the world re-balance their relationships and learn to thrive through her seminars, consulting and books. She also teaches marriage counselors and other professionals about effective marriage therapy for couples impacted by ADHD. Orlov blogs for Psychology Today and at www.adhdmarriage.com, where she also hosts a large community of adults learning about ADHD in relationships. She has been interviewed by many, including the New York Times, CNN, Today, and US News and World Report. You can find her at www.adhdmarriage.com.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHD & Marriage Consulting and receives royalties as a published author. She is the founder and lead contributor for www.ADHDmarriage.com. Melissa Orlov receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Melissa Orlov is a blogger for PsychologyToday.com.

Objectives

1. Demonstrate strategies to help couples more accurately categorize “misdemeanour” and “felony” breaches of trust.
2. Determine strategies to help couples select target symptoms (in both partners) that, when addressed, will provide a solid basis for rebuilding trust.
3. Evaluate the merits of different action plans to help speed the recovery of trust (symptom-related; behavioural; emotional; interactive).

Outline

• ADHD and Trust – It’s Complicated!
  • ADHD is the obvious culprit—but what else is it hiding?
  • When the problem is the other partner’s reaction to ADHD moments
  • Sometimes the problem isn’t about ADHD at all—but it still needs to be addressed
• The Elements of Trust – Accommodating ADHD without Diminishing Either Partner
  • Help partners identify what really matters—and what they can flex on
  • Greater consistency—but how much is necessary?
  • Better responses to disagreement and disappointment
  • Improve honesty before, during, and after disagreements
• Paths to Rebuild Trust, Based on Situation and Symptoms
  • Manage ADHD more effectively to reduce relationship stress
  • Create better systems to manage responsibilities collaboratively
  • Negotiate —balance good effort with reasonable expectations
  • Direct confrontation of highly problematic behaviour

Target Audience

• Counselors
• Educators/Teachers
• Marriage & Family Therapists
• Nurses
• Physicians
• Occupational Therapists
• Occupational Therapy Assistants
• Psychologists
• Speech-Language Pathologists
• Social Workers